You’ve got a friend in me

This next friend is a little harder to distinguish from the others. They can be misleading, because you may go through periods were you’re not quite sure if they are with you or against you. By that I mean that you might feel that they don’t ever agree with you or, they simply look to start an argument with you. The sign that they are a true friend is when you are having a bad day.

Drawn by Kimberly, using DeviantArt Muro
Drawn by Kimberly, using DeviantArt Muro

You do not have to say a single word in order for them to understand if you’ve had a bad day. They will only try to make you feel better. The best part about this friend is that they will never suffocate you with questions. If you tell them that you would rather be alone, they disappear! If you tell them that you need to talk to them and you might need some advice, they’ll be there. No matter the scenario, they’re there. Please remember in every other situation when you are perfectly fine, this friend will be rather difficult. I like to compare this friendship to that of Woody and Buzz Lightyear.

Screen still from Disney's Toy Story (1995)
Screen still from Disney’s Toy Story (1995)

At first meeting, they did not quite see eye to eye. As their friendship continued they each learned to accept each other’s opinions. Similarly, you may not always see eye to eye, you both know that you’re are there for each other. You can count on the other when you might be down. Finally you know that this friendship is very flexible because you have an understanding of each other’s relationship. Another representation of this type of friendship is this Buzzfeed video about meeting your sarcastic soulmate.

Expert Advice

When I was thinking about what I would write about for my blog, I asked almost all of the people I trusted most. They each came with their different ideas, but I didn’t feel that any of the topics were really for me. So I began reflecting, what have I search and found almost no help on? Advice on friendships. All too often I would find myself staring at pages and pages of advice on relationships.

Drawn by Kimberly using Deviant Art/ Muro
Drawn by Kimberly using Deviant Art/ Muro

The friendship blog is a great resource to use whenever you want some advice on friendships. It helps at any point of a friendship. From the beginning to the end of a friendship the friendship blog can always give some helpful advice. Another thing that I liked about this blog was their forms.

The Friendship Blog website
The Friendship Blog website

I enjoyed seeing that people were able to ask the editor questions about any situation they were given I also liked that their community would help each other. They are also very specific on which posts for different situations are located within the blog. I was happy to see that there was a well-developed site for people who may be having trouble in their friendship. So be sure to visit their website here!

The friend who’s always there

This friend is VITAL to your circle. They are always there to have a good laugh. Even on the worst days this friend could make you feel like everything will be alright. They know how to comfort you in the worst of situations. Most importantly they are always there for you. This friend will know how to lift you up.

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Drawn by Kimberly, using Deviant Art/ Muro

When you first meet this friend you’ll probably start laughing right away. You may not always have to be around this friend to know that you’ll be able to pick up right where you left off. You both have an understanding that sometimes life might get in the way and that you may not always have time to talk. They are open to hearing what you have to say about different topics.

This friend will always be there for you and you know that they may play an important role in your life once they may not have been talking to you for a few weeks, and then out of the blue they call you. It’s important for a friendship to come naturally. If you feel like they are always bothering you about not have had called or messaged for more than 2 weeks then maybe you are not meant to be friends. It might even feel like they are becoming obsessed with you! In all seriousness, friendship should NOT be a chore, It should be something that you look forward to not something you are dreading. If you think that your friendship is not as easy as it should be sure to read more about attached friends here.

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Taken from a Pintrest post by quickmeme.com

The friend who can tell you the truth

It may be difficult to realize at first, but you’ll know when you’re having a hard day. When you’re really down and you need someone to lift you up, you think of them first. You call them, and expect a nice talk about how you’ll make it through your life issues but instead you are greeted with a conversation completely different.

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Drawn by Kimberly, using Deviant Art/ Muro

So on the phone, you begin your rant. At the end instead of a comforting you, you’re hit with by a wall of reality. A true friend can tell you what they really think without any hesitation. Of course, this advice that’s given to you is not given with an intention of harm, it’s given with the intention that you are going to see the truth and that you will be able to rise from whatever situation you may be going through.

After that first talk with my friend, I knew that they were worth keeping throughout my life because they had the quality of being able to tell me the truth. They were comfortable enough to tell me what they really thought. I think that its important for everyone to have a friend that is there for you when you need a reality check. If they have bad intentions when you ask them for advice then maybe you should just move on to better people. If you are struggling to understand whether or not your friend is the correct type of honest, you can read this article.